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Gotcha Day

"Gotcha Day" is a term for the anniversary of the day on which a person or a pet joins a family by adoption.[1] It is also called "Homecoming Day", "Family Day", or "Adoption Day", although the date may be different from date on which the legal adoption becomes final.[2][3][4] Gotcha Day is often associated with annual rituals or celebrations, much like a birthday.[3][5] The tradition, and especially the word gotcha, is considered offensive by some adoptees.[1][6][7]

History

The 2001 book, Primary Care Pediatrics, noted that adoptive family are rarely present for the child's birth and recommended a celebration "additional to the [birthday celebration, that is, the 'gotcha day'."[8] Margaret Schwartz, in her book The Pumpkin Patch, declared September 15, 2005 as International Gotcha Day.[3][9][10][11] Schwartz used the term in reference to her international adoptions where the legal adoption occurred separately to the children physically joining the family. Spectrum Press subsequently endorsed and publicized the movement.[5]

Rituals

Gotcha Day can include cakes and presents like those of a birthday to broader celebration as a means of raising community awareness to normalize adoption.[11] "Gotcha Day" greeting cards are widely available and personalized "Gotcha Day" souvenirs have become a cottage industry.[12] Re-telling the story of the child's arrival, as part of the family legend, is often highlighted. If the child was adopted from another culture, traditional food and music may be incorporated.[13]

Some celebrate with a "happy Gotcha Day" cake or give a small present, like a keepsake for their adopted daughter's charm bracelet. Others go out for a nice dinner, invite friends for an "adoption day" barbecue, or take a special family photo.[7]

Controversy

The arguments for celebrating, especially with international adoptions, include that it is a "firm date in history" whereas exact birthdays and early milestones may be less sure.[7] It also marks the day a family came physically together, separate from the legalities. According to an adoptive parent Amy Ames in a post on Adoptive Families, "'We gotcha' is a phrase that acknowledges when another way of life began. Simply saying 'Adoption Day' does not differentiate between our children's placement and finalization dates, so 'Gotcha Day' is a less confusing name for us."[6]

Arguments against include the opinion that it puts the focus on the adult's experience of events and demeans that of the adoptee.[7] "'Gotcha' for parents means 'lost-ya' for children who have been separated from familiar faces, smells, surroundings."[5][14] Adoption occurs after loss and abandonment and marking the day of transition can heighten those feelings.[1] Other arguments focus on the word 'gotcha', which can have a 'gloating' tone.[14] Author Karen Moline, a progenitor of the argument against the term, wrote "What does this term imply? We use it when we grab someone who is running from us, or when we save someone from something, or when we're playing a game."[10]

Author and adoptive parent of color Morénike Giwa Onaiwu has emphasized that much of the "controversy" surrounding negative connotations of the term erases the perspectives and experiences of communities of color (adoptees of color and adoptive parents of color) and notes that the alternative phrases are equally problematic.[15]

References

  1. ^ a b c Milbrand, Lisa (November 19, 2013). "National Adoption Month: Should You Celebrate Gotcha Day?". Parents. Archived from the original on 30 November 2013. Retrieved November 17, 2018.
  2. ^ Roth, Jeffrey (April 2, 2013). "Some Families Celebrate 'Gotcha Day'". Carroll Magazine. Archived from the original on December 9, 2014. Retrieved August 7, 2014.
  3. ^ a b c Crooks, Lauren (September 12, 2005). "Celebrating Love". The Spokesman-Review. Spokane, Washington. Archived from the original on August 8, 2014. Retrieved August 7, 2014.
  4. ^ Slade, Suzanne; Papile, Christopher (2007). Adopted: The Ultimate Teen Guide. Lanham, Maryland: Scarecrow Press. p. 4. ISBN 978-0810857742.
  5. ^ a b c Seligmann, Linda J. (2013). Broken Links, Enduring Ties: American Adoption Across Race, Class, and Nation. Stanford, California: Stanford Univ. Press. p. 249. ISBN 978-0804786058.
  6. ^ a b Moline, Karen. "The Great 'Gotcha' Day Debate". Adoptive Families. Archived from the original on August 10, 2014. Retrieved November 17, 2018.
  7. ^ a b c d Urist, Jacoba (November 7, 2013). "'Gotcha Day' Celebrations Spark Debate Among Families Who Adopt". Today. NBC Universal. Retrieved November 17, 2018.
  8. ^ Green-Hernandez, Carol; Singleton, Joanne K.; Aronzon, Daniel Z. (2001). Primary Care Pediatrics. Contributors: Harvey W. Aiges, et al. Philadelphia: Lippincott. p. 73. ISBN 0781720087. Retrieved 7 August 2014.
  9. ^ Schwartz, Margaret L. (2005). The pumpkin patch : a single woman's international adoption journey. Louisville, KY: Chicago Spectrum Press. ISBN 1583741186.
  10. ^ a b Moline, Karen (2014). "Get Rid of "Gotcha"". Adoptive Families Magazine. Archived from the original on 10 August 2014. Retrieved 7 August 2014.
  11. ^ a b Turner, Lynn (2006). Family Rituals. Sage. ISBN 978-1-4129-0992-1. Retrieved 2009-03-23. {{cite book}}: |work= ignored (help)
  12. ^ Temple, Sheila (2011). Gotcha day : a celebration of adoption. Bloomington, Ind.: CrossBooks. ISBN 978-1615078257.
  13. ^ Biziou, Barbara (November 1, 2010). The Joy of Family Rituals: Recipes for Everyday Living. Cosimo Books. p. 196. ISBN 978-1616404673.
  14. ^ a b Brian, Kristi (2012). Reframing Transracial Adoption; Adopted Koreans, White Parents, and the Politics of Kinship. Philadelphia, Pa.: Temple University Press. p. 151. ISBN 978-1439901847.
  15. ^ "Regarding Gotcha Day as a term: when white ain't necessarily right". Morénike Giwa Onaiwu. 28 December 2014. Retrieved 22 February 2021.
Quelle: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gotcha_Day